You may have a good idea of what your wedding day will be like, but it’s not until the organizing and celebrating are over that you can truly think about and reflect on the experience had – this is why it is helpful during the planning process to hear from brides who have already been through it! And so, we asked some beaming Calgary brides to reflect on their wedding experiences and share their advice with us. We knew the Mrs.’ of YYC would have wise things to say!
(photo credits: Velvet Leaf Photography)
One of the best things I did in planning my wedding was hire vendors that I trusted to do an awesome job. I’d say spending the time researching and consulting with vendors was well worth it, because once we signed our contracts I was done stressing about it, and I knew I could let them do their jobs.
I was also glad we tried really hard to think about all the small details of the actual day that would need to be sorted out ahead of time. Things like grouping and pre-packing items that needed to go to the ceremony site and reception site, and labeling those bags or boxes clearly with their location and what date and time they needed to be there. Another important detail was making sure all vehicles had a driver at the end of the night, who was responsible for returning the vehicle to it’s rightful place the next day.
I wish I had been more assertive in what I wanted. I was so scared of being a bridezilla that I over-compensated sometimes and felt that I couldn’t be direct about what I wanted (especially when I disagreed with my husband on a decision). I should have been more direct and assertive.
It is so much better when both people are involved in the decision making process. Yes, it takes longer to make decisions because there are two people’s input to consider, and it will create some conflict, but in the end you will have a wedding that you both feel ownership of and proud of. One of the most frequent compliments we got about our wedding was that it was “so us.” I definitely attribute this to the hard work we put in as a couple to make it OUR wedding, not just mine (although it was tempting at times to do it on my own!)
(photo credits: David Milan)
One of the best things I did was stick up for a couple of things that I really wanted – things that traditional thinkers had a hard time accepting as being okay. Those ended up being my favourite parts of the day!
There was a bit of culture clash and miscommunication during the wedding process.
Establish from the get-go what close family members want and expect from the wedding, including what role they will play. Don’t assume you’re all on the same page just because you’ve had casual wedding conversations – weddings mean very different things to different people, and they can be a source of culture clash if things are only brought up close to the day.
Consult a wedding planner and see if it works with your budget. A great wedding (like any awesome corporate event) is comprised of a million details, and chances are if you don’t have a wedding planner it will be up to the bride or groom to remember and execute them all. Unfortunately, all I remember from the weeks leading up to the day is stress, but with a wedding planner you will be able to enjoy the moments and spend time with visiting friends and family as the day gets closer.
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I would say the number one thing that I was glad I did during the wedding process was try to be really creative with my budget and think outside of the box. It could have been so easy to just go with the norm, but by taking the time to do some research I saved thousands of dollars on flowers, venues and food. All it took was putting in a little extra time and thought to create a wedding that was so much more “us” for so much less.
What I would change about the whole wedding planning process? Probably try to be a little bit more laid back about things. My husband Chad is the perfect example of that, he seems to be able to let the less important things slide (this is why we make a great team, as my reactions are usually closer to what I call “small child melt downs”). I was so focused on making the day perfect that there were many times I forgot to enjoy all the different parts of the process.
My words of advice… Make your wedding an extension of you and your spouse. The day is to celebrate who you are and who you are becoming with those that love you. I know it’s difficult to do with opinions coming from everywhere, but when you look back at all the hard work, you will know that it expressed who you are as a couple – and that is the most important thing. Also, budget for a great honeymoon… after all that work it is waaay worth it! 🙂
Thank you ladies for sharing your beautiful weddings and sage advice with us!